How to find out if your boyfriend is married or your girlfriend has a husband
New love can burn so brightly that it blinds you to all but what you want to see. Have you stopped to consider that your new boyfriend or girlfriend might have a spouse at home already? I bet you haven’t and why should you suspect anything? I mean he’s charming, good looking and really turns you on right. Well I guess that you wouldn’t be reading this if you didn’t have even a little doubt about your new lover so how can you find out if someone is married?
1: Ask his friends if he’s married
Ok this is an obvious thing to do but many people overlook it. If you know any of his friends then get to know them a bit better and ask them about your boyfriend. Usually they will be only too pleased to tell you all about him, the bad as well as the good so it can be an invaluable source of information. Most people will warn you if there’s anything that you should be concerned about so if they are married, or are already in a relationship, then there is a good chance that they will tell you.
If you find that the friends are less than talkative and avoid your questions then you should start worrying. The person you are talking to may know something that they feel you ought to know but they don’t want to be the one to tell you. They might give you a hint, a little warning like “be careful” or “I don’t want you to get hurt”. This should start alarm bells ringing right away and you should be looking for other ways to find out if he’s married.
2: Ask your boyfriend or girlfriend if they’re married
This sounds even more obvious than asking his friends doesn’t it? But you assume that he’s not married don’t you? If he’s married what is he doing going out with you? A good question so ask it. Be direct and come straight out with it to give yourself the element of surprise.
Now he’s going to say “no of course I’m not married” whether he is or not so you must pay close attention to the way he says it. If he looks uneasy and avoids making eye contact with you when he answers then he could be lying to you. If this happens then ask “are you sure you’re not married”. If he starts to sweat or gets annoyed then that too can be a sign that all is not as it appears.
3: Do a lie detector test on him
No I don’t mean that you should strap him up to a polygraph or anything like that. There is an easier and altogether more relaxing way do do it. All you have to do is talk to him a lot and ask him a lot of questions. You do this anyway right so it’s no big deal.
The trick to detecting lies is to really listen to the answers that he gives you. If today he tells you he’s an airline pilot but last week he told you that he was scared of heights and that he has poor eyesight then this might just be a lie. If he tells you that he’s a doctor but you can’t figure out when he actually studied and worked as one then this could also be a lie.
Look for inconsistencies in the things that he tells you. Remember it only takes one lie to make him a liar. If you can find just one thing that you know is definitely a lie then how can you trust anything else he’s told you?
4: Do an online background check on your boyfriend to find out if he’s married
When you’ve found out all you can about your boyfriend or girlfriend by talking to him or his friends you can do an online background check on him to find out not only whether he’s married or not but also whether he has a criminal record, whether he has arrest warrants or has ever been declared bankrupt. In fact you can often find out practically anything you might want to know and if it all matches with what he’s telling you then you can put your mind to rest and take your relationship to wherever you want it to go. If it doesn’t then walk away.
Author: Steve Gee