How To Tell If Someone Is Lying When They Say They Are Not Married

Wednesday, October 7th, 2009

How do I tell if my boyfriend lies?

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So you have a new boyfriend or girlfriend. Things are going great and you’re thinking of taking your relationship to the next level. You might be thinking of getting a place together or even a bank account because right now you can’t ever see the two of you being parted. He’s asked you to marry him but do you really know him? How do you know that he’s not married already and that he’s just saying things that you want to hear? You need to start listening really carefully because he might just be lying to you.

Most people lie, it’s a fact. Some people lie a little to make life easier for themselves or others while there are other people who lie for a living. I call them politicians but that’s another story. Some people lie because they can’t help it; they are compulsive liars who will lie about anything even when there is no need to tell a lie. Some people are just criminals and lie to con you out of your money or possessions.

It’s very difficult to keep up lies especially when they are complicated made up tales. It’s also very difficult to eliminate all the clues that you and your body give off when you’re telling them but some people are better at it than others and some people have devoted their lives to concealing their true intentions.

If you want to check out his or her story about being married without having to ask or detect whether he’s lying to you then you can do an online background check on him straight away. If you find his marriage records in the public records database then there is a very good chance that you’ve been lied to.

If you are looking for the clues that your boyfriend’s lying to you then it’s often not too difficult to spot them. The trick is to keep him talking about anything and everything and look at the way his behaviour changes when you ask him certain questions. Some things to look out for are:

He breaks eye contact and looks away

He might look up and to the left when telling a lie.

The pitch of his voice changes

This could indicate a change in your suspects stress levels.


Trying to think of the right thing to say can lead to hesitation and a lot of ‘um’ and ‘err’ noises.

He turns his body away from you however slightly

It’s harder to lie to someone when talking straight at them.

Nervous body movements or fidgeting

Can you make your boyfriend squirm with some searching questions that you know he doesn’t want to answer?

More than adequate detail in his descriptions

Does he tell you more than you need to know? This could indicate a degree of preparation in the response to your question.

Speaking more rapidly than usual

People will often talk quickly when telling a lie almost as if they’re trying to get it over and done with as soon as possible.


Sweat can be a giveaway when you know that it isn’t hot and they don’t normally sweat.

Color changes in his face

I’m a lousy liar, you just have to look at my face and if it goes bright red then you know I’m lying. I think that this is true for a lot of other people too.

Learn to spot when someone is lying to you. It could save you time, money and a lot of heartbreak if you know when you are being conned.

So if you think that you are being lied to why not do a background check on them now and see if the story matches with what you find.

Author: Steve Gee

Arrest Warrants: Check For Arrest Warrants And Avoid Being Left At The Altar

Friday, October 2nd, 2009

Stacy wishes that she had done a background check on her boyfriend

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Stacy Savill works in IT as a software developer and feels safe and at home with the internet and computers. When she found herself single again after being a couple for so long it was only natural for her to turn to the Internet to help her to find a new boyfriend.

Like so many people these days Stacy leads a busy life and finds it very difficult to meet new people the conventional way. She doesn’t have the time to hang out in bars and take evening classes so she uses the Internet for it’s awesome effectiveness and time saving qualities and it works.

Before long Stacy had found herself a new cyber buddy. They exchanged emails regularly and had long sessions on Messenger getting to know each other. They hit it off well and after a few weeks of virtual meetings they decided to meet in the physical world. They lived reasonably close so arranging to meet wasn’t a problem.

Your first date with your online friend

They met for the first time in a public place in the middle of the day and Stacy made sure that a friend knew where she was going and whom she was meeting. She clearly had her safety in mind and was doing all the right things.

Tom was engaging and charming and always said the right things to Stacy. He bought her flowers and little gifts, which made Stacy feel warm, safe and wanted. The romance went on for six months before Tom finally popped the question and asked Stacy to marry him. Stacy agreed without hesitation.

Why was Stacy waiting at the altar?

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Seven weeks later Stacy found herself waiting at the altar for her beloved but Tom was late. So late that Stacy was worried that he wasn’t going to turn up and sent people to investigate.

It turned out that Tom had been stopped and arrested on his way to the church. He had arrest warrants for child abuse and had broken bail by failing to return to court. And that’s not all, six more warrants came to light later covering everything from traffic offences to domestic violence. Stacy had no idea about Tom’s past or his life when they weren’t together.

Do a background check and don;t leave things to chance

As you can imagine Stacy was devastated by this and couldn’t believe how she’d been taken in so easily. Not to mention the expense of the wedding that never happened. What did she do wrong?

This story is fictitious, the names are disguised and the events described never happened. I made up the story to illustrate a very real problem that so many people find themselves in when they meet new people. If only Stacy had done a simple background check on Tom before she met him for the first time, or at any time after that.

Online background checks

Doing background checks on people using online public records databases is very easy and very affordable. You don’t need to be a computer whiz to do it either. Doing background searches on everyone you meet can help you to sleep well at night and avoid being left at the altar.

I think that Stacy had a narrow escape. If Tom hadn’t been stopped and taken to jail on an arrest warrant on his way to the church it could have been years before she found out and then the story might have been much worse.

How Do I Check For Arrest Warrants
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Author: Steve Gee

Is Online Dating Safe? 10 Tips For Safe Internet Dating

Sunday, September 27th, 2009

Is online dating safe? Dating can be risky no matter where you meet

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The internet has become the dating method of choice for millions of people and the vast majority of them, including myself, have been very happy with the results. Is it risky? Yes it is but so is dating in general. Remember these common sense tips and you’ll be as safe as you possibly can be when dating online.

1. Don’t give out your personal details

If you are looking for suitable dates on line you could be talking to a lot of interested people. They don’t all need to know where you live or your phone number. Don’t give them this information until you know them a lot better and you’ve met them in the real world.

2. Don’t enter into any financial arrangements

Wherever there is opportunity there will be a small number of thieves and criminals. The Internet provides many opportunities for thieves and con men so there is a small possibility that you might meet one of them online. Thieves who prey on people looking for dates online are most likely to be after one thing – your money. So don’t ever give them any or enter into any financial transaction with them no matter how plausible their story is.

This is a very important tip because it’s a common ploy of online thieves to persuade you to do things like opening a bank account that they have access to so that they can deposit money into it. They invent some reason for you to draw out the money and send it to them, which you do because everything looks ok. Some time later the bank informs you that the check that had been cleared into the account was forged and the money has been removed from your account. It’s a simple confidence trick so don’t fall for it.

3. Find out everything you can about your new friend

Ask as many questions as possible and look for inconsistencies in his story. Find out where he lives, how old he is, where he works, what he does and anything else you can think of. The more he tells you the more certain you can be of his sincerity.

4. Examine his story carefully

Confidence tricksters tell you a pack of lies to get you to do what they want you to do. It’s very difficult to make up an elaborate set of lies that are all believable and don’t contradict so it’s not difficult to see through it if you look carefully enough. You only have to find one piece of information that you can definitely identify as a lie to cast doubt over everything else he tells you. If you find that he’s lying then walk away.

5. Do a background check on him

Now that you have a lot of information about your new friend you can do a background check on him here Court Records Background Checks You’ll be able to check that he lives where he says he does, that he doesn’t have a criminal record, how old he is, whether he’s married or not and loads more. If the background check doesn’t agree with what he tells you or he simply doesn’t seem to exist then you should walk away.

6. Meet in a public place in broad daylight

When you feel that you’re ready you’ll want to meet your new friend in the flesh. When the time comes make sure that you arrange to meet in a public place in broad daylight. You should have checked out his background by now so you can afford to be relaxed about it but you should still avoid giving out your personal information until you know that you are interested in seeing him again.

7. Tell a friend where you are going

Always make sure that you tell a friend where you are going and who you’re going to meet. Arrange to check in with them at a certain time so that they know all is well. It’s unlikely that you’ll have a problem if you’ve followed the tips above but it’s good to have a back up plan to raise the alarm if anything goes wrong.

8. Talk to their friends

Before you get too serious with a person you should try to talk to his friends about him. This is where you’ll find out the real story of what he’s like and how easy he is to live with.

9. Never give them money

Never give him money or enter into any financial transaction with them. You might want to do this at some time in the future but don’t even think about it now.

10. Take your time

Don’t rush into anything. Give yourself time to get to know your new friend and check him out. If he’s worth it he’ll understand and your future relationship together will be all the better for it.

Is online dating safe? It can be and it is for thousands of happy couples around the world. I know because I’m one of them. Follow these tips and enjoy safe Internet dating.

Background Check your Boyfriend for safe Internet dating

Author: Steve Gee

How To Stay Safe When You Date And Safe Internet Dating

Wednesday, September 23rd, 2009

Safe Internet dating is possible if you take some simple precautions

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Starting a relationship with someone new can be a risky business. How can you trust someone that you’ve only known for a short time? Are they being truthful? Are they going to scam you out of your money? Are they married? Are they violent? If you know how to apply some simple common sense techniques before you commit to your new partner then you will know how to stay safe when you date.

Finding a new partner on the Internet is simple and easy and can be safe as long as you are careful. Thousands if not millions of happy couples have met this way and are very happy together. I know because I’m one of them.

Unfortunately there are always going to be some crooks in any crowd. Whether you meet your partner on the Internet or in a bar or nightclub you must be careful. You can’t even trust your work mates or close friends sometimes.

Never give your Internet date money

If you meet someone on the Internet then rule number one is don’t give them any personal information and definitely never ever give them money or agree to any transactions involving money. There are many scams that use these techniques to con you out of money and many people fall for it. Don’t be one of them.

Meet in a public place

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When you’re confident enough to meet your new friend make sure that you arrange to meet in a public place where there are lots of people around. This can prevent an ugly scene when you decide that you need to leave. Again you should never agree to any kind of financial transactions even if it appears that there’s no risk to you and that you would be doing your friend a favour. If he asks you to do this then beware because this is how the con men operate.

Check out his story

The one thing that con men and scam artists have in common is that they tell lies and they are very good at it. If you don’t check out what they say then you’ll have no option but to believe it because it will all seem very reasonable to you. So how can you detect a liar?

Exposing a liar isn’t difficult if you now how to do it. You see you only have to pick up on one lie to throw doubt on anything else they say. Ask them all about themselves, where they live, how old they are, where they were born, have they ever been arrested and anything else that you can think of. Even the best con men will have to tell a few lies to keep their cover story going so you should be able to collect quite a few.

Now that he has told you all about himself you can go online and check out his story using a service that provides public records from a multitude of different sources and places it all at your fingertips. You should be able to trace your friend easily and check out a lot of the information he’s given you. If he doesn’t check out or if he doesn’t seem to exist at all then you should simply walk away. This is how you stay safe when you date. Getting a background check on someone online is very simple and inexpensive so do it and enjoy safe Internet dating.

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Author: Steve Gee

How Do I Find Out If Someone Is Married?

Thursday, September 17th, 2009

How can you find out if your boyfriend is married?

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When you’re in love and thinking seriously about making a commitment and even marriage, the thought of delving into your mans skeleton cupboard to find out if he’s everything you’ve hoped for is probably the last thing on your mind. But how do you know whether he’s already married or not? He might even have a criminal record and not told you about it. You owe it to yourself to do a little background check on him before it’s too late.

If you have mutual friends then talk to them

No one knows a person better than their closest friends so if you happen to know the same people or you know someone who does then go and talk to them. Buy them a few drinks and grill them about your new lover.

Most people will be happy to talk to you about their friends but if they appear to be reluctant to answer your questions then this could mean that they have something they don’t want you to hear. If this is the case then start to get suspicious.

Talk to your new boyfriend

Your new boyfriend has the answers to all your questions so you should ask them, all of them. People love to talk about themselves and will be happy to give you the answers. Unless they have something to hide of course in which case they might seem evasive or inconsistent. If this happens then you should start to worry.

You should always talk to your partner of course but if you don’t have any mutual friends to talk to then it’s so much more important that you do talk to him directly. It’s so simple and yet many people get blinded by romance and forget to do it.

Is he being consistent

Finding out if someone is lying to you can be easier than you think. The trick is that you don’t have to detect every lie that they tell you. You only have to find one lie to throw doubt on everything else that they say. For instance if they tell you that they are 35 years old but you know that they have a 25 year old daughter then they could be lying. If he tells you that he’s an airline pilot but seems to lack knowledge of some airports then this could also be a clue.

If your lover can lie to you about one thing then he can lie to you about anything so beware. At the very least you should do a background check on him before you go any further.

How Do I Find Out If Someone Is Married?

Author: Steve Gee